I do not want to be morbid, but let us face it, we all have the same endpoint — death. We do not know when it will come neither do people anticipate for it to come.

However, one thing is definitely certain, when it comes, it brings a lot of pain.

Why am I talking about death? Just recently, I lost someone I know. Gone too soon I would say. So many questions lingered in my mind. Why? If an old person passes away, we can say that they lived a full life. However, if it is a very young person, we find it hard to accept. We always say, there is so much more in store for them, they were not able to live their life to the fullest. The pains of death are extremely hard to accept.

Our circumstances in life leave us with only two choices: Accept or Reject. Whatever your choice is, it does not change reality. However, how to move with the pain makes a big difference.

Rejecting the unfortunate fate is a mere temporary solution to a permanent problem. You ran away from your challenges because you find it hard to face reality. But nothing has changed, the problem is still there and rejecting it does not solve anything. You simply put it on pause mode and the day will come when you will face it head on — whether you like it or not.

Acceptance is your first step to change. Change to be a better you and correct whatever mistakes you made. You cannot correct anything if you do not acknowledge that such a reality exists. In the case of death, learning how to accept the loss of a loved one enables you to move on and start a new. It does not mean that you will totally forget that person, but you learn to move on and go on with your life, holding on to the wonderful memories that you created with them.

Accepting the challenges in life is not a sign of defeat it is the pathway to victory. You brave whatever pains and misfortunes life has to offer and that alone makes you a winner.