I Feel You

We live in a chaotic world. Chaos in the minds due to conflict of ideas or emotional chaos brought about by things not happening the way we expect them to. No matter what circumstances surround us, we always have a reaction towards them. We are either empathic or we are apathetic.

Empathy and apathy are defined to be opposites. Empathy relates to the positive while apathy goes to the other end. When we are able to relate or connect with the feelings of another person, we practice empathy. Apathy is characterized by “a lack of interest, enthusiasm, or concern.”

I would like to look at apathy, not as a lack of concern or interest, but more of — “empathy with no action.”

Empathy is inherent in man because by nature man is kind. However, when, we go through struggles or challenges in life, or simply want to secure our territory, it causes us to be indifferent and simply put self first before others. This is what leads us to be apathetic.

We have heard stories whereby a man is being robbed and not a single soul bothered to help. All of us empathize with the person because we do not want the same thing to happen to us. We feel the fear and pain that person is feeling. But, some people do not want to extend help, because they do not want to endanger themselves. For them, it is better to shrug it off rather than take the risk and put oneself in an uncompromising situation. This is when empathy turns into apathy.

Through the years, I have faced a lot of struggles. I do not regret them, instead, I use them to connect with people and be a better human being. My struggles have led me to be truly human and not only see people but feel them.

When you see someone face struggles that you previously underwent, you easily connect with them and automatically give a part of you to help that person. “I feel your pain” is what we always hear. You develop a deeper emotional connection when you empathize. It is humanity at its best. When we empathize we reveal the true nature of man — kind-hearted and ready to open your heart to bring people up.

Seek opportunities to show you care. The smallest gestures often make the biggest difference. —-John Wooden.


Amos Balongo

Amos has been a Corporate Motivational speaking sensation since moving to the United States from Africa. He has presented at several Leadership conferences and summits and traveled to over 32 countries motivating and transforming Leaders with his message. Organizations like United States Pacific Command, United Nations, United States Airforce, The YMCA’s of the USA, United States Navy and many others have hired Amos to speak. Amos is also a Philanthropist and has developed many initiatives in the United States and in Africa, empowering and equipping leaders through various leadership opportunities.